How did I handle the announcement? Completely stunned. For a man who often has a lot to say, I didn't know what to say. Ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you that I can't be quiet; and, when others are talking, I often can't wait for them to stop talking so I can. I was simply stupefied. Eventually, when I found my voice I asked "Are you Sure?". Of course she was sure, especially my wife. Over the span of two days, she took three pregnancy tests and consulted the NP (Nurse Practitioner) in her office before she was confident enough to tell me. She knew my hopes were high and she didn't want to dash those hopes. Bless her heart!
Let me back track a little here and give you some background before I continue on. When I met my wife, she was absolutely dead set against having children. I, of course, wanted lots. We didn't really discuss children until we'd been together for some time and, by then, I was hopelessly in love with her; so there was no question that we would stay together no matter what.
Over the next several years, I slowly convinced her that it wouldn't be the nightmare she feared. She was really worried that we would raise a hellion based on other people's children and how they behaved in public. She was adamant that she would not raise a child like that. I whole-heartedly agreed which is how we eventually came to the decision that we would have a child. She finally realized that, after much convincing, every child was different and so was every parent and every situation. We would do our best with whatever was handed to us to raise a child we could be proud of.
Once we finally came to that agreement, we began to try to have a child. While the "try" part can be extremely fun, after two years, it can become frustrating. We read every book, we talked to our doctors, had tests done, and so on but it was starting to wear on both of us. Here is where I must convince you to continue trying no matter how frustrating it seems. Never give up; because the end result is absolutely breath-taking and amazing! You're time too, will come and when it does, you must absolutely embrace it and celebrate it!
So, we were about ready to give up (which I truly caution you not to) when it happened. All good things come in time and our time had finally come. When she announced it, I was elated, happy, scared, excited, worried, and dumbfounded all at once. That's right, dumbfounded. I had no idea what to do next. I mean none, nada, zip, zilch, zero.
Luckily, my wife knew exactly what to do. We got a baby doctor and the rest, as they say, is history. I can't fully put into words every emotion that went through me when my wife announced that we were pregnant, but the end emotion was absolute joy and happiness. I was finally going to be a father and, most importantly, a dad! I couldn't wait to hold the little guy in my arms and say "Daddy's got you, everything will be okay."
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